Yadda ake tsokano sha'awa budurwa - full
Barka da zuwa wannan gida mai alfarmar kayan marmari, a wannan gida zaka samu duk abinda zaka buƙata dangane da yadda zaka kwanta da uwargida ko kuma yadda zaka ci gindi yadda ya kamata.
A yau zamuyi magana ne akan yadda ake tsokano sha'awa budurwa ko kuma yadda ake janyo sha'awar mace.
Abubuwa guda takwas [8] wanda ya kamata ka sani na yadda ake tsokano sha'awa budurwa ko kuma tayarwa mata sha'awa harma da bayanin-su, kuma waÉ—annan hanyoyi zasu baka damar ka tayar da sha'awar mace ba tareda daka kusance ba:
Kuyi sani cewa kamar yadda maza sha'awarsu take motsawa a lokacin da sukayi arba da wasu É“angarori na jikin mace, to haka suma mata sha'awarsu take motsawa a yayinda suka kalli wasu É“angarori na halittan namiji.
Tamkar yadda kowane namiji yake da abubuwan da suke janyo hankalinsa ta fannin sha'awarsa daga jikin mace, to haka suma mata suke wato kowacce mace da abinda yake tayar mata da sha'awa, idan har tayi tozali da abubuwan.
Kamar yadda yake da haÉ—ari mace ta dinga bayyana surarta ga mazan daba nata ba domin gudun motsawa wannan namiji sha'awarsa, haka ta fannin maza keda haÉ—ari idan matan suka ga jikin namiji tsirara.
Bincikenmu ya nuna cewa maza da dama basuma fahimci akwai halittansu da suke motsawa mata sha'awa ba, tun kafin ace sun taɓa su ballema susan yadda za suyi amfani da wannan dama sun janyo hankalin matansu ko budurwarsu. A lokacin da ya kasance an ɓata mata rai ko akeson rarrashinta, koda buƙatar motsa mata sha'awa kamar dai yadda suma matan sukeyin amfani da tasu halittar domin janyo hankalin mazajensu.
Munyi nazari sosai mun gano wasu muhimman wurare guda takwas a jikin maza na yadda ake tsokano sha'awa budurwa ko kuma uwargida. Saidai kamar yadda muka yi bayani a sama, abinda zai iya motsawa wata sha'awa wata ba shine zai motsa mata ba. Kowace mace da kalar abinda takeson gani a jikin namiji wanda ke bata sha'awa.
Saidai kuma cikin waÉ—annan abubuwan da zamu lissafa dole ne a samu abu guda cikinsu wanda macen tana sonsa.
1. Tsafta
2. Ado ko kwalliya
3. Gashi
4. ƙamshi
5. Tautausar murya
6. Kayan bacci
7. Kan nonuwana
8. Kalaman batsa
Ga bayanan kowane É—aya na yadda ake tsokano sha'awa budurwa ko amarya ko kuma uwargida wanda muka lissafa a sama.
1: Tsafta- Da yawa daga cikin mata da zaran sunga namiji yaci wanka yayi tsaf-tsaf musamman ya saka turare nan take sai sha'awarsu ta motsa suji suna sha'awar wannan namiji, har takai suji suna son sumbatarsa daga nan sai gado a soma aiki.
Tsafta ta jiki ga maza samari da magidanta tana da matuƙar amfani ga zaman takewar aure. Mace tana da bukatar ganin saurayinta ko mijinta a koda yaushe a ɗan-gayensa, babu wani abun ƙi a tare dashi kamar kaushi ko kirci a kafarsa da hannuwansa, yadda idan ya taɓa ta za taji laushin fatar hannunsa dazai tayar mata sha'awa.
2: Ado- Mataye da yawa sun-sha tuɓe mazajensu su koma gado bayan sun shirya da nufin fita aiki ko kasuwa, bayan sunyi kwalliya da adon fita. Wasu matan suna gama masa kallon sai suji sha'awa ta kama su. Babu abinda take buƙata illa ya cita. Nan take zata cire masa wannan adon domin kwantar da sha'awarta.
3: Gashi- Mazaje masu baiwar gashi a jiki suna saurin motsa sha'awar matansu ba kamar yadda maza marasa gashi ba. Irin gashin ƙirjin namiji shine abu mafi sauƙi na tayar da sha'awa a wajen mata, fiye da duk sauran gashin dake jikin namiji. Da zarar mace taga da ƙirjin da yakeda gashi abinda kawai takeso shine taji hannunta da yan yatsunta na wasa dashi. Gemu ko saje na fuskar maza suma gashi ne dake motsa sha'awar mata musamman idan ana tsaftace su yadda ya kamata. Saidai nazari ya gano cewa mata basu cika son mazajen dake da gashin baki mai tsawo ba. Mata suna son ganin saurayinsu ko maigidansu da gemu ko saje, saboda akasarin matan hakan na taka rawa wajen motsa musu sha'awa saboda irin zumuɗin da suke dashi wajen son wasa dasu.
4: Ƙamshi- Kamar yadda mace mai ƙamshi take saurin jan hankalin maza, haka shima namiji mai amfani da turare mai ƙamshi yana saurin janyo sha'awar budurwa ko mata.
Wasu yan'matan da zaran sunji ƙamshi na turare ba fita daga jikin namiji babu abinda suke so illa ta jita a jikin namijin tana shafa shi, ta hakanne take saurin kamuwa da sha'awar jima'i. Don haka maza su kasance cikin ƙamshi a duk lokacin fita kuma yanada matuƙar amfani ga ma'aurata. Turare na ɗaya daga cikin hanyoyin yadda ake tsokano sha'awa budurwa.
5: Tautausar Murya- Bincike ya tabbatar mana da cewa a lokacin da namiji ya mayar muryarsa ƙasa kamar mai sha ko cin yaji yana magana da mata, nan take ƙwaƙwalwarta ke shiga cikin tunanin jima'i, daga nan kuma sai sha'awarta ta motsa. Tattausar murya na daga cikin yadda ake tsokano sha'awa budurwa wadda ake kira (bedroom_voice) a turance, yanayin murya ce da take tayarwa matan sha'awarsu. Don haka yan-maza saimu kula cewa cikin hikimar motsawa budurwarka ko matarka sha'awa ba tareda ka taɓata ba, akwai magana cikin raɗa da tattausar murya domin hanyace mafi sauƙi.
6: Kayan bacci- Akasarin maza suna matuƙar son ganin matansu cikin kayan bacci, amma ƙalilan ne suke siyawa matansu kayan baccin a dalilin rashin sani ko wani abu daban. A fahimtar mata da mukayi da yawansu suna buƙatar ganin mazajensu cikin shigar kayan bacci. Gajeren wando mara nauyi, kamfai ko kuma boxer sune aka tabbatar cewa kashi 70% na mata sha'awarsu tana motsawa idan suka ga mazansu a haka. Musamman a yayinda burar namiji ta miƙe a cikin wando ko kuma gajeran wandon yana nuna shatin kaciyar azzakarinsa. Haka ma doguwar riga wato jallabiya zulaika ba wando a cikinta, shima shigar bacci ne dake matuƙar tayarwa macen sha'awa. Yanada da ƙyau sosai maza su kula domin irin waɗannan kayan bacci ana yiwa iyali ado dasu.
7: Kan Nonuwa- Tamkar dai yadda mu maza sha'awarmu ke saurin tashi da zaran munga nonuwan budurwarmu ko matansu. Haka suma matan suke saurin motsuwa, wani lokacin ma har É—igar ruwa suke da zarar sunga kan nonuwan maza a fili, musamman-ma mazan da suke da baiwar kan nonuwa masu tsini. siffar kan nonuwa ta maza na É—aya daga cikin hanyoyin yadda ake tsokano sha'awa budurwa ko kuma matar aure.
8: Kalamai Na Batsa- Maza da dama ne suke cewa mata suna son kalaman batsa sosai. Kalaman batsa suna matuƙar motsawa mataye ko budurwa sha'awa tun kafin namiji ya kusanceta. Da zaka jarraba turawa matarka ko budurwarka kalaman batsa da kasha mamaki.
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